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 Is Speed-Dating in conflict with God’s will?
 
This is a great question; one that we thought about also as we seek to glorify God with our mission.  CSM believes that using a Christian speed-dating service would not be any more in conflict with God’s will than it would be to use an online dating service, to agree to attend a blind date, to agree to an arranged marriage, or to seek out the help of family, friends, and mentors with the task of finding a godly spouse.  The reality is that people have received help with finding spouses since the beginning of human history and the needs of those in modern society are not fundamentally different from the needs of ancient believers.  What is different today, compared with the past, is the way assistance in this area is structured based on changes in society and technology.    Here is another way to look at the issue:  Would you consider it oppositional towards God’s will for someone to choose to work with a recruiter or a staffing agency to help them find the right job?   While we cannot say for certain what God's specific plan is for your life (aside from His general will communicated in Scripture, ex. Micah 6:8), we do know that God wants us to be wise with our resources (Matthew 25: 14-30), and seek Him in all things (Matthew 6:33).  Desiring to be wise with resources such as time and money is one reason why many Christians have turned to dating services for assistance with finding spouses.   Some might feel that their biological time-clocks are ticking and they don't want to miss out on experiencing all the blessings that God has to offer within families.   Others believe they are being good stewards of their time and money by increasing their odds of meeting a suitable partner in a shorter amount of time.  Moreover, with all of the waiting, guessing, wondering, and heartache that can occur in common dating situations, we are excited to be able to offer a pre-dating solution that helps Christian singles avoid many typical frustrations associated with the dating process.   Ultimately, we believe the desire to find a spouse is God-given and that there is nothing in scripture that would suggest that someone is usurping God's will by employing a practical solution to meet someone right for them.   On the contrary, in fact, we are praying behind the scenes that God uses our service to help bring many Christian singles together; singles that would be better when they are matched together than when they are apart!
 

Here is a summary of critical truths which guide our vision and mission:

  • In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1).
  • All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; that the person of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work (II Timothy 3:16,17).
  • The Law became our tutor to lead us to Jesus, the Messiah. Jesus established a new and better covenant (Galatians 3:24; Hebrews 7:22).
  • Jesus of Nazareth is the Christ, the Son of the living God, and Lord. He is the image of the invisible God (Matthew 16:16; Col. 1:15; Acts 2:36).
  • Jesus died for our sins, was buried, and was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures (I Corinthians 15:4).
  • The Holy Spirit convicts the world concerning sin, and righteousness and judgment (John 16:8).
  • If any person is in Christ, he is a new creation (II Corinthians 5:17).
  • Jesus is the head of the Church which is built upon the foundation of the apostles (Ephesians 1:22-23; Ephesians 2:20).
  • God calls all Christians to be ministers of reconciliation regardless of their occupations (II Corinthians 5:18).
  • There are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are varieties of ministries, but the same Lord. There are varieties of effects, but the same God who works all things in all persons. But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good (I Corinthians 12:4-7).
  • Jesus' great commandment is to love. "Love your enemies" and "love one another." Whoever loves the Father, loves the child born of Him. Every Christian is a brother or sister to every other brother or sister and should live like it (Matthew 5:43; John 13:34-35; I John 5:1).
  • Jesus' great commission is to go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that He commanded of us and lo, He will be with us always (Matthew 28:19-20).
  • The Lord will come again for both judgment and salvation. Every eye shall see Him (Hebrews 9:28; Revelation 1:7; I Thessalonians 4:16-17).
  • Biblical marriage is defined as heterosexual union between one genetic male and one genetic female, and biblical marriage is the approved context designed by God for a sexual relationship.